Finding the Joy in Motherhood
My experience with motherhood is that it comes with unexpected joys, thrills and times of complete madness. I remember feeling confused when my sweet baby was born. After about a week of sleepless nights, weird hormonal changes and having no idea what I was doing, I thought to myself--when will life go back to "normal?" Little did I know, it took me about a year to feel normal again. And since then, I have learned a thing or two about finding joy in motherhood.
I learned that the relationship with my husband would change; and that's okay. In fact it was a great thing. Our relationship became deep and meaningful. Not that it wasn't before, but to put it bluntly, our relationship became less about pure physicality and more about genuine attraction, devotion and complete companionship. I found joy in this change. Together we found joy in raising a child. We discovered the layers to our relationship were all very different and brought different levels of joy to our lives. One side to our relationship was being responsible parents, that worked as a team to raise a child. The other aspect of our relationship is completely our own; one that no one else is truly a part of. It is an intimacy that grew from our existing friendship.
I also seek guidance from my family and friends. These are the people who I love, so I watch them with their own families. I pay attention to their language, their actions and their overall attitude. Being raised as an only child left me feeling clueless when my son graduated from infancy into toddlerhood, so this approach has helped me tremendously.
Last but not least, I seek spiritual guidance. It is important to me that our home has an "open door policy." When Beckham came into this world I wanted him to know that our home is open to God and love and goodness. It is open to diversity and critical thinking. It is open to prayer and divine power. This concept has truly been the greatest influence in finding joy in motherhood. Our open door policy has helped us discover who we are as individuals (which is especially important in parenthood), but it has also helped us discover our own, unique parenting style. We've used our belief in God to fuel our hearts and minds with love in our daily lives. It has helped us create a beautiful life that we love.