My second baby is now a month old. Before she was even born, I struggled with the fact that I would no longer be working outside the home. I was officially a stay-at-home mom. I felt like because I wasn’t working, I had lost a huge part of my identity. I didn’t like it, and it caused me to resent anyone (ahem, my poor husband) who had any kind of life outside of the house.
I’ve been trying to adjust to juggling two kids and no longer providing for my family financially, and it has been overwhelming. Just this week, we went to meet my husband for lunch and I was exhausted just trying to pack a lunch and load the kids in the car! I grumbled, questioning if my efforts to meet him were even worth it.
I’m still learning, and I’m only a month into this new way of life, but I’m working on a few things that I think will be so crucial in this transition as a SAHM:
1. Just Get Out
Taking lunch to my husband was a lot of effort. But guess what? It was worth it. It took me a while to see it, but it was. It got us out of the house, it allowed us to get some fresh air, and we spent time as a family.
2. Accept Help
I’m incredibly stubborn when it comes to accepting help. I hate feeling like an inconvenience. But please hear me, friend: accept the help. Let grandma hold the baby while you actually sit down and enjoy your lunch. Let your husband take a middle of the night feed so you can rest. Let your sister take your toddler for the afternoon. You. Need. It. You are still working full-time! The workplace may just look a little different.
3. Find a Social Outlet
I’m not talking about social media. I’m talking about face-to-face socialization. Connection is crucial, and it can be harder to come by if you’re not in the workforce. Whether it’s joining a gym or starting a book club, find something that allows you to check your social box and gives you the opportunity to have an adult conversation. Find a tribe and make them a priority.
4. Take Advantage of Naptime
Read that book for your book club. Mediate. Listen to a Ted Talk. Sneak in a quick nap yourself. Whatever makes you feel rejuvenated--do it. Reset before you’re back on mommy duty. Even 10 minutes can set the tone for the rest of the day.
I’m starting small with just those few things. If you’re in the same boat, I encourage you to start small too. I got this. You got this. We got this, mama.